Vasectomy was definitely the right move for me, my wife and our family, so I set about joining the nearly 29,000 men who have vasectomies each year in Australia 1. I was approaching my mid-40s and I didn’t fancy the idea of becoming a new dad again even later in life - my aching bones and fuzzy, sleep-deprived head regularly remind me that parenthood is a young person’s game, and I didn’t fancy the idea of crawling around the floor, changing nappies and so forth into my 50s. Being a dad is the greatest thing that’s ever happened to me (yes, the hardest, but no doubt the greatest), so wouldn’t more be better? Or what if one day I separated from my wife, and then met someone else who wanted to have children with me … what would happen then? As unlikely as that was, I had to consider the possibility, and still my answer was ‘no more kids’. I also took a lot of time to reflect on whether I was 100% certain I didn’t want any more children. Each of them said it wasn’t as scary or invasive as they initially feared.
I hadn’t in any great depth, so I researched it and spoke to several mates who had had the procedure. “Have you thought about having a vasectomy?” she asked one evening. My wife had taken some form of contraception for decades, and basically, she had had enough! And the thought of using condoms wasn’t an attractive option to us. When our daughter was about one, the ‘V word’ was raised - vasectomy. We became parents later in life (technically, the term ‘ geriatric pregnancy’ was used to describe both of my wife’s pregnancies - a pretty insulting definition when you think about it!) - perhaps if we were younger, we might have gone for a third child but as it was, we were more than content with two beautiful, healthy and happy children. The idea of getting a vasectomy was raised by my wife about a year after the birth of our second child - we knew our family was complete. While any surgery is scary, the knowledge that someone would be cutting me open ‘down there’ intensified those feelings of apprehension. Vasectomy is a scary subject for many men - the thought of having a part of your scrotum cut can be daunting, to say the least! Even its nickname ‘The Snip’ conjures uncomfortable images in many men’s minds.
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